Posts tagged ‘Lessons Learned’

June 20, 2011

Mother Can Never Touch My Laundry Again.

Photo Via: Paula Wirth

Don’t you hate when your clothes shrink? I just had this happen to me. I woke up (late as always) for work and went to put on my dress pants for the office. Lo and behold they turned into high waters after an over night wash that my mother secretly did.

You see I told her they were dry clean only, and that today I would take them downtown to the dry cleaner. They still had a few wears left in them so I planned to take them to the cleaners on Wednesday. Instead my crazy mother washed them for me, with thinking that it would be a nice gesture. Instead they shrunk in length about four sizes (far beyond the point of even pulling them off to be cute). I was beyond furious when I woke up this morning. It now looks like I have grown four inches, which would be nice if it actually would of happened. So now I have no clue what to wear to work, because I also had the same pair in a kaki color, but those only shrunk a tad bit. The black pair were my favorite (because obviously it goes with more lol).

This is how my mom responded when I drilled her with questions about it. “Mom, did you wash my pants last night?”…”Yes”…”I told you they were dry cleaned.”…”I know, but that doesn’t mean anything.”…”Oh really? Then explain to me why my black pants are high waters right now?”…”Oh, that has never happened to me before. Sorry?”

Note to self: never let mom go near my laundry ever again..unless she has permission.

March 9, 2011

I Wish I Had All The Answers.

Photo Via: Beleza

Life is never easy, it wasn’t meant to be. At times when it does get hard, I tend to wish I had the answers to all of my problems. Regardless of the problems I might be faced with-school, love, or life-I always find myself hoping to be able to see ahead to the end. What fun would that be though? To know all of the answers throughout life. That is the beauty that life holds, you never know what will come next. Life always keeps you guessing what comes next. Even at times when you think you might know the outcome, it will shock you what truly does happen.

Some changes have been recently made in my life. I am moving on with the rest of my life, moving on for me, moving on for the better. I have let go of moments of my pasts, even though it was not what I wanted. It never ended up how I thought it would, but things change, and people change, and I know better than to stay around for false hopes. Nothing sums up my life at the moment better than the lyrics to this song.

“I know there’s a blue horizon somewhere up ahead, just waiting for me. Getting there means leaving things behind; sometimes life’s so bitter sweet. I guess it’s gonna have to hurt. I guess I’m gonna have to cry, and let go of some things I’ve loved to get to the other side. I guess it’s gonna break me down, like falling when you try to fly. It’s sad, but sometimes moving on with the rest of your life starts with goodbye. Time heals the wounds that you feel somehow, right now.”

I am walking away from my past, and I am now on an adventure to find myself again. The ones who truly care will always be there for you, every step of the way, and will always remain. I am a strong girl, I always have been. I have been through a lot more than most, and I have been through a lot less than most. I can get through this crazy thing called life on my own, I need no one to hold my hand.

Sometimes moving on with the rest of your life starts with goodbye.

March 3, 2011

Get Happy, Be Happy.

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I found this post on Stumble Upon by The Inspiration Tree. It helped me out so much, and helped me view my life as to how I used to. You see, I have been in a hole with life, and I believe I dug myself into it. I have been having troubles trying to find my way out of it, and to stand up on my own two feet again. I needed a good positive boost such as this to help me back on track. I want to send a huge thank you to the writer of The Inspiration Tree, Sam. This post was a huge pick me up.

The Pursuit of Happiness: 15 Lessons to Keep in Mind

1. The only person that can ever truly make you happy is yourself. Stop depending on everyone else.

2. People lie, stuff happens. Don’t take it too personally.

3. Want people to think you’re amazing? Start believing you are, and then they will too.

4. Smiling is the ultimate anti-depressant. Smile and laugh out loud, it doesn’t look stupid, I promise.

5. The world is never just black and white, right or wrong, one way or another. Try and see things from as many points of view as possible.

6. “Let everything happen to you
Beauty and terror
Just keep going
No feeling is final”
Rainer Maria Rilke

7. Have empathy.

8. Gossip, problems of the past, events you cannot control, negative thoughts and negative people; time spent on these is time poorly wasted.

9. When you’re jealous or find yourself filled with hate for someone/something, stop. The only person its hurting is you.

10. Although the newest, most expensive material things may make you feel as if you’re a better person, they won’t hold you at night or listen to you when you need it. Make sure your priorities make sense.

11. Step outside your comfort zone- it’s when you’ll really feel alive.

12. Don’t be afraid to be yourself, the people who really matter, don’t mind

13. Let your emotions out sometimes, humans have them for a reason.

14. Celebrate the things you have. Think only positively of the things you don’t (but would like to have) and they too will come.

15. Love unconditionally ♥.

I hope that this helps someone else out today. Be happy, for every moment, of every day. Check out the entire post from The Inspiration Tree.


March 3, 2011

Don’t Play With Guns.

Photo Via: Lemuel Leogene Reyes

Some of my readers know my father on a first name basis, so they know his personality. For those of you who have not read other posts about my father, you probably should take up the opportunity and do so. He calls it as he sees it, and tells you like it is. He is not afraid to speak his mind, even if it does hurt people along the way. He is one to tell stories in grave detail, and will always be the first to give you advice. His advice will be unlike any you have ever received; trust me on that.

Growing up the only topic my dad and I talked about was sports (And boys from time to time. Mostly that conversation started with, “Who is he? I thought we agreed with you can not date until you are married” and then ended with, “Well, always remember, be the dumper, not the dumpy.“). We both live, breath, eat, sleep sports. It was not until I was older that our topic of discussion widened to other subjects, such as college and life.

I remembered this conversation that I had with my father a few weeks ago, and decided to share it with you.

We were discussing a university shooting in Ohio. I read about it online, and was explaining the situation to my parents. It was a fraternity party that quickly turned bad. A fight had erupted and resulted with one of the boys shot another with a gun, ultimately killing the victim. My mother gives the typical motherly reply, “Oh how awful. What would make them do such a thing. That boy’s poor family.” My father, on the other hand, is like a light switch with his anger (Now that statement might make my father out to be one that has a problem with anger management, which is not the case. Some things really just set him off; for instance, one of his biggest yelling fest that I have witnessed was when he came home to dirty dishes in the sink. He hates that more than anything I believe. The things that really get his blood boiling are little silly things). His response was:

Why did he have to have a gun? Does no one know how to fight anymore? Only pussys carry guns, the ones that can not back it up. They just need to suck it up, get their ass kicked, then go home. That’s what used to happen when I was younger. If you ran your mouth you better be able to back it up, because if not it would be a long walk home. No one carried guns, unless you are going hunting. Only pussys that are scared to get their asses kicked carry guns.

Oh the wise words from my father. I get speeches such as these on a daily basis, even if they have no reverence to me. Instances such as this fuels me into writing a book of all of the things my dad says. Maybe some day I will, but for now, I will share my lessons learned from my father on here.

February 13, 2011

Second Guessing.

Photo Via: T@ylor_Tot

Is it possible to know right when you meet the person that you will spend the rest of your life with them? Or, is that feeling something that has to be worked on and wanted. By that I mean, you and your significant other learn from one another, work out your differences, accept one another’s flaws, and grow together. Most of all, you must love one another unconditionally. No matter the circumstances you will know you will always love them in return, and you will receive the same gratifying feeling back. True love, is something you must strive for. It takes work, hard work, and you can’t back out from it. You know that no matter how hard things get or how rocky the road might be ahead of you, you both decide to face things and work it out together. At that moment, you know that no matter what you will always be there for that person, regardless of the situation. They have become such a part of you, that if you ever were separated, you would be incomplete. You must fight for love to last, because no one said it would be easy.

Now my question still remains, can you fall in love with a person that has the potential to take your hand in marriage without the fight? Can you know without working at it, every single day? That is for you to answer because I truly do not know.

When that moment comes, that feeling of knowing you can not picture your life without that person, how are you sure? Have you ever had a second thought of thinking that they might not truly be the one? Maybe, it is the feeling of cold feet. There is that scared thought in the back of the mind, afraid of that huge step of commitment. Is that a normal feeling to have, second guessing thoughts?